Asset Based Mental Workout
Making your ﬁrst thoughts be positive
will keep you from wanting to roll over and go back to sleep. It is a vivid dress-rehearsal that shapes what you aim for and how you respond to what comes your way.
You look at what’s in store with conﬁdence and equanimity – no impatience – no urge for the “quick ﬁx”. Adopting this point of view allows you to savor the choices that lie ahead, wake yourself up with enthusiastic anticipation and inﬂuence how things turn out.
Then, when you step out of bed, you immediately enter into a lively interplay between providence and intention.
Turn Faults into Strengths
Making amends for ﬂawed actions, YES!
Making amends for ﬂaws, NO!
Feeling guilty in either case, NEVER! Asset-Based Thinking
makes you consider your ﬂaws, shortcomings, and limitations as important to whom you are and what you have to work with. You see them as the complement to your talents, strengths, and capabilities.
AbT Interactions :The First Moments
Before you interact, take a moment or two to see something about the person that you ﬁnd valuable, admirable, or interesting. Be speciﬁc. Consciously register your positive perceptions by articulating them to yourself. You might say to yourself, “this person has great energy, or an attractive, strong presence, or a conﬁdent demeanor.”
ABT examples from a Toddler
Picture the moment when a toddler takes the ﬁrst steps. Imagine their parents’ reactions – their fascination and excitement. Cheering is automatic.Criticism is non-existent
, wobbles and mis-steps are not even noticed. In your early years, it’s impossible to learn, grow, or develop a positive sense of yourself without someone letting you know just how amazing and talented you are.
Imitation: Asset Based Thinking Style
The fastest way to learn anything is to imitate
a role model. Think about how you learned to walk, speak, write the alphabet and tie your shoes. In the early years, learning by imitation dominates.
Imitating what you admire in others and want to acquire for yourself requires becoming their student, not their judge and jury. As a student of the assets of human nature you are now ready to spot the best of what anyone has to offer.
The Asset Based Thinking Truth
Use Asset-Based Thinking
to give constructive feedback that will have an impact and be heard over the noise of the defense
mechanism. Take all the time you need to formulate your messages. Then, tell the truth fast
Many people shy away from telling their vision of the truth when it might cause hurt feelings, trigger anger or disrupt the relationship. They hold back the feedback that could potentially help another person change and actually strengthen a friendship because they don’t want the conversation to backﬁre. They let Deﬁcit-Based Thinking
Assess Your Current Situations
At any given moment, in the privacy of your own mind, assess what is working, what is moving forward, what has opened up, and your progress
. Make these observations even if there are all consuming front-burner issues that are dominating your attention. Use your mind like a split screen TV – watch how you are handling the immediate issues and note what has facilitated your progress, opportunities that have arisen and how you have leveraged them.