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Wednesday, February 01, 2006

Asset Based Mental Workout

Making your first thoughts be positive will keep you from wanting to roll over and go back to sleep. It is a vivid dress-rehearsal that shapes what you aim for and how you respond to what comes your way.

You look at what’s in store with confidence and equanimity – no impatience – no urge for the “quick fix”. Adopting this point of view allows you to savor the choices that lie ahead, wake yourself up with enthusiastic anticipation and influence how things turn out.

Then, when you step out of bed, you immediately enter into a lively interplay between providence and intention.

Tuesday, January 31, 2006

Turn Faults into Strengths

Making amends for flawed actions, YES! Making amends for flaws, NO! Feeling guilty in either case, NEVER! Asset-Based Thinking makes you consider your flaws, shortcomings, and limitations as important to whom you are and what you have to work with. You see them as the complement to your talents, strengths, and capabilities.

Monday, January 30, 2006

AbT Interactions :The First Moments

Before you interact, take a moment or two to see something about the person that you find valuable, admirable, or interesting. Be specific. Consciously register your positive perceptions by articulating them to yourself. You might say to yourself, “this person has great energy, or an attractive, strong presence, or a confident demeanor.”

Thursday, January 26, 2006

ABT examples from a Toddler

Picture the moment when a toddler takes the first steps. Imagine their parents’ reactions – their fascination and excitement. Cheering is automatic.Criticism is non-existent, wobbles and mis-steps are not even noticed. In your early years, it’s impossible to learn, grow, or develop a positive sense of yourself without someone letting you know just how amazing and talented you are.

Wednesday, January 25, 2006

Imitation: Asset Based Thinking Style

The fastest way to learn anything is to imitate a role model. Think about how you learned to walk, speak, write the alphabet and tie your shoes. In the early years, learning by imitation dominates.

Imitating what you admire in others and want to acquire for yourself requires becoming their student, not their judge and jury. As a student of the assets of human nature you are now ready to spot the best of what anyone has to offer.

Tuesday, January 24, 2006

The Asset Based Thinking Truth

Use Asset-Based Thinking to give constructive feedback that will have an impact and be heard over the noise of the defense
mechanism. Take all the time you need to formulate your messages. Then, tell the truth fast.

Many people shy away from telling their vision of the truth when it might cause hurt feelings, trigger anger or disrupt the relationship. They hold back the feedback that could potentially help another person change and actually strengthen a friendship because they don’t want the conversation to backfire. They let Deficit-Based Thinking take over.

Monday, January 23, 2006

Assess Your Current Situations

At any given moment, in the privacy of your own mind, assess what is working, what is moving forward, what has opened up, and your progress. Make these observations even if there are all consuming front-burner issues that are dominating your attention. Use your mind like a split screen TV – watch how you are handling the immediate issues and note what has facilitated your progress, opportunities that have arisen and how you have leveraged them.